The Gentle Guide to Potty Training

Potty training is a big milestone for both little ones and their parents. It marks a new stage of independence and growth, and while every child’s journey is different, one thing is certain: it doesn’t have to be stressful.

Here’s a gentle, judgement-free guide to help you navigate potty training with confidence and positivity.

1. Is Your Child Ready?

Every child is unique, and there’s no “perfect” age to start. Most children show signs of readiness between 18 months and 3 years. Some indicators might include:

Staying dry for longer periods

Showing interest in the toilet or wearing pants

Letting you know when they’re going or have gone

Disliking the feeling of a wet or dirty nappy

If your child isn’t quite there yet – that’s absolutely fine. There’s no rush.

2. Creating a Calm and Encouraging Environment

Children respond well to positivity and routine. Try to:

Make it fun: Read potty-themed books or sing songs.

Keep it relaxed: Avoid pressure or punishment accidents are part of the process.

Celebrate small wins: A high five, a sticker, or a happy dance can go a long way.

3. Choosing the Right Equipment

Whether you opt for a standalone potty or a seat insert for the toilet, make sure it feels comfortable and secure for your child. Letting them choose their potty or special pants can help them feel involved and excited.

4. Building a Routine

Start by encouraging potty time at predictable moments, after meals, before bed, or first thing in the morning. Keeping a consistent routine can help your child understand what to expect and build confidence.

5. Be Prepared for Setbacks

It’s completely normal for progress to ebb and flow. Illness, big changes, or even just a bad day can lead to temporary regressions. Respond with kindness and patience, it’s all part of the journey.

6. Night-time Dryness Takes Time

Staying dry at night often comes later. Many children need nappies for bedtime for months or even years after they’re dry during the day. That’s perfectly normal, their bodies will get there in their own time.

7. When to Seek Extra Support

If potty training feels particularly difficult or stressful, you’re not alone. Health visitors or GPs can offer helpful advice and reassurance. Sometimes, a fresh perspective makes all the difference.

You’re Doing Brilliantly

Whether your child potty trains in a week or over many months, remember: this is their journey, not a race. Celebrate the progress, however small, and be gentle with yourself along the way.

You’ve got this and so do they. Good luck!